“Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Regardless of how you were raised or what you have been through in your life, the outcomes of high self-confidence are generally agreed upon by researchers. It’s something within. Self-confidence is your overall opinion of yourself — how you feel about your abilities and limitations. When you have a healthy sense of self, you feel good about yourself and see yourself as deserving of the respect of others. When you have a low level of self-confidence, you put little value on your opinions and ideas.
I have found in my own life and in those I have coached and counseled, that high self-esteem is associated with better health, better social lives, protection against mental disorders and social problems, healthy coping, and mental well-being.
Self-esteem or self-confidence has been shown to help children perform better in school. Self-esteem is also strongly linked to happiness, with higher levels of self-esteem predicting higher levels of overall satisfaction in life. High self-confidence has even been found to increase the chances of overcoming significant life-changing events.
There has been a strong correlation between self-confidence and an overall feeling of good mental health and wellness.
Six Attributes of the person with a high level of self-esteem:
- A greater sense of self-worth
- Greater enjoyment in life and in activities
- Freedom from self-doubt
- Freedom from fear and anxiety, freedom from social anxiety, and less stress
- More energy and motivation to act
- More enjoyable time interacting with other people at social gatherings. When you are relaxed and confident others will feel at ease around you.
If you are struggling to regain your sense of self or struggle with low self-confidence, here are some other simple techniques that may help you feel better about yourself.
Celebrate your strengths. We all have a talent or something that we do well! Maybe it’s writing, singing, helping others, cooking, or even parenting styles, make sure you recognize and celebrate.
Build positive relationships with those who lift you up and help you to elevate to be your best self.
Be kind to yourself. We all struggle with should’ve / could’ve / would’ve. Give yourself a break.
Learn to be assertive. Find your voice and speak up for yourself and for those who have no voice.
Start saying “no”. We simply can’t do everything in one day. Learn to focus on what you can achieve and say no to things that are time wasters.